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5 Free Resources to Bring Healing to Your Marriage

Over the past several years I've been searching hard for what it takes to grow closer in your marriage, connect more deeply and live more fully for God. 

It's not easy when our natural inclinations are selfishness and pride. I don't think that means we are utterly selfish people. But marriage will pull out these qualities because it takes a radical selfless and humble love to truly develop intimacy in your marriage.

Towards the end of our first year of marriage I broke my foot. Actually, it was just my toe. But I nearly snapped it off. The bone was hanging by a thread. Coincidentally, this happened just an hour before our day planned to celebrate our anniversary. 

The day was instead spent in urgent care and then on crutches. No more hike to the place we got engaged or visit to our college to celebrate. Instead, we parked ourselves on the couch and ate freezer meals.

This incident brought to light a lot of underlying problems that had cropped up in our marriage. Selfishness, shame, fear, Satan's lies that had silently ensnared us. 

It was through this that we discovered the need for God's invigorating presence in our marriage. Things didn't just get better, it took a lot of work.

But over the next several months, we committed to tearing down strongholds and learning better ways to live for God - together.

It's a lifelong process and now, years later, we still battle this everyday. But those few months laid the foundation for some powerful and radical change.

These resources and posts that I want to share with you today cropped up from all that God spoke to us during that time. 

In these posts and resources on marriage, you will find encouragement to strengthen your marriage and intimacy and to grow closer to God's amazing purpose for you and your spouse.

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How to Fight Selfishness in Marriage

How do we deal with this invisible and yet achingly real threat to our marriages?

With each passing day of my marriage, I was faced with a choice: to acknowledge and fight my selfishness or to turn my face and allow it to work within our marriage.

As hard as it is, we must take the first step. If we don’t, that selfishness will weave cracks into the very foundation of our marriages. And it will threaten the health and well-being of the sacred covenant we committed to.

Click to read How to Fight Selfishness in Marriage.

Why Prayer is Essential to a Thriving Marriage

Looking back I had no idea how important devoted and strategic prayer was to a healthy and thriving marriage.

When you spend devoted time in prayer, specifically about your marriage, you will find that several aspects of your marriage will change.

This post uncovers 3 powerful changes that occur in your marriage when you commit to praying. 

Click to read Why Prayer is Essential to a Thriving Marriage.

5 Simple Ways to Make Your Spouse Feel Loved

When we serve our spouses, we offer a selfless love that strengthens the very foundation of our marriage.

When you serve your spouse, you send the message that they are important and respected, their needs are valued and their heart is secure.

So let’s dive into some practical ways you can serve you spouse over the next week.


Click to read 5 Simple Ways to Make Your Spouse Feel Loved.

The Secret to Loving Your Spouse When You’re Angry

Marriage is a relationship unlike any other.  You get to see all sides of your spouse, including the not so favorable.  And you don’t get to run away when things get rough.

So how do you deal with the undeniable anger that rears its head when you least expect it?

This post uncovers some powerful ways to deal with anger in your marriage.

Click to read The Secret to Loving Your Spouse When You’re Angry

Free Product on Marriage

A Challenge

Join me for my 5-day video challenge and let’s TRANSFORM your marriage.

My husband and I have spent loads of time sifting through long and laborious conversations trying to discover what it takes to really connect and make our marriage thrive.

These 5 challenges will open the door to a new outlook on marriage and give you specific and powerful tools to make your marriage thrive!



  1. Nicole these are great resources, thank you for pulling them together all in one place. My husband and will celebrate 29 years this August! It hasn’t always been easy, but it is worth the time and effort. Keeping Christ at the center has been the most important things. We are neighbors over at #BVN linkup this week.

    PS.. if you are looking for another place to link to on Thursday’s I would love if you would consider joining my linkup #TuneInThursday – it opens Thursday 3am PST and runs through Sunday night. you can find it at (Please feel free to delete the link if you think it inappropriate).

  2. I love this! These resources are perfect. My husband, I finally found a church in our new town that we like and feel encouraged by going each week. We’ve been working a lot on making our spiritual life a bigger priority. Can’t wait to use some of these.

  3. It blows my mind when I see couples without Jesus as their center! I couldn’t imagine a life like that. All of these things are so essential to making a lasting marriage and the best marriages I have seen regularly implement them. So worth it in your marriage!

  4. I am a newlywed (we just hit our six month mark!) and I never ever want to be divorced. I am always looking for ways to make sure we stay strong. Thank you for these resources!

  5. We have been married 37 years this coming October. Thank goodness we have Heavenly Father in our lives. Helps us draw closer and be less selfish toward one another.

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